Love this song.
No matter how easy the wrong choice seems to be, knowingly and continually choosing the easy way out will complicate life in the end. Make the hard choices, put the work in and eventually you’ll see why it’s worth it. - Hillary (just something I realized this morning)
Praying for someone who has done something to hurt you can be one of the hardest things to do. Our instinct as humans is to react to pain in a defensive way, to want to hurt back. But, Christians are called to react outside of our sinful natures. We are called to forgive, and we are called to love. And there isn’t any time-frame or stipulations made with that charge. We are to forgive a person, no matter the number of times they have hurt us, and there is nowhere that says we are to wait for an apology… we are to forgive and love, no matter the conditions of the situation, no matter how heinous the act, regardless of the other persons state or repentance.
Does that mean we continually expose ourselves to hurtful situations, or let ourselves be mistreated? No, sometimes it is right to step back from a situation. But, it does mean that we are to love that person regardless, and forgive them for their actions… not for the other persons sake, but for our own. Forgiveness benefits the forgiver… true forgiveness, releases you from any grudges you may carry, which can weigh heavy on your heart, and do no one more damage than to yourself.
Truly forgiving someone, helps you heal from the hurt, even without apology.
Should people apologize? Yes, but sometimes the situation, for one reason or another, doesn’t permit it. Regardless, we are still called to forgive.
I think it’s also important to remember, that forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily take away the pain of the hurtful act, but it is a step in the healing process. Time and seeking God continuously with keep your steps toward true healing, who better to provide that than the ultimate physician we have in Christ our Savior?
There’s a healing need inside.
To cover pain and what feels like lies.
So torn, it feels like I’m in two.
So tired, I just don’t know whats true.
But I promised I’d be strong.
No shed tears, it feels so wrong.
When letting go could be relief.
I can’t fearing it’d bring more grief.
With So many questions that could rise.
All I want to know is why?
~Hillary A. Harvie